We are taught to work our way to God, even after salvation. This way of thinking is false and is completely detrimental to our faith. We are completely righteous, loved, accepted and heirs through Christ, not through our 'good deeds' or church attendance or abstaining from certain things.
Our loving actions and obedient lives are to be an outflow of our heart. A heart that is so captivated in the truth that striving is not needed to earn favor in God's eyes. He's found complete favor and satisfaction because of Christ's perfect obedience.
When we saturate our hearts in those Gospel Truths we will rejoice and have limitless joy and freedom which will display it self in an obedient life. It's not, and cannot be the other way around. Your obedience can't be a means to make God think highly of you oran attempt at earned favor from Him... you are already favored, even when you fail. Your favor has been purchased by Christ.
We must be careful to see our Pharisee ways and how they create little Pharisees. Please, teach your kid's Bible stories but don't convince them that God loves them when they only do right. Teach them over and over that they are, "Sinful and flawed than they could ever dream but more loved and accepted than they could ever hope for."
It's comes so natural for us to teach kids to do whats right so God will smile at them and love them. Do you see the focus on that false teaching? God loves those whom are His children not based on their actions, good or bad, but completely based on Jesus' obedience.
Give the Gospel to your children. Teach your little babes that their obedience should be grounded in the fact that they are loved, forgiven and accepted, no matter what disobedience they show. Their obedience should be the overflow of gratefulness to God for accepting them based on Jesus and not by their actions that could never measure up.
A few example of kid's stories that promote the enslaving teachings of earning our right standing as a Christian are: "kid's you better do what God says or you will be swallowed by a fish just like Jonah." Or the story of the Prodical Son returning... "kids's don't be like him, he wasted so much time when he should of just been serving God" instead of focusing on how we are the elder Prodical son doing all the 'right things' trying to earn favor with God and thinking in return we deserve God's love."
Hope you will continue or begin to examine your Children's literature and even their songs closer, let's teach our little babes the Gospel, it's the only thing that will set them Free, the only thing that will bring them Happiness and their Only Hope.
Have you noticed this to be a pattern in books, sunday school literature and kid songs?